When It Comes To Social Support

Often times we go through our days feeling defeated as we continuously get let down by people around us. People we had assumed for a long time, were our “best friends.” We put so much of our faith into the hands of others, not knowing that we really aren’t a huge priority to the other person, even when they may be a priority to us.

Trying to weed through determining what’s what, when it comes to our social lives, our trusted support network, and close family relationships can be such a struggle. We end up feeling like just throwing up our hands, and saying the hell with it. We build an idea in our minds that we don’t need anyone.

While that does sound beautiful at times, it just isn’t something that is sustainable for most human beings for long periods of time. Experts claim that we humans have an instinctive, evolutionary need, to exist and belong, in social structures.

This article will serve a purpose for social support. I want to present this topic in a way that doesn’t support that typical attitude of not being able to trust anyone, and not needing any type of social support. Most of us need it. So let’s see why.

Being able to confide in other trusted people in our lives can usually be one of the most valuable tools we have. I myself have rarely if ever found success with properly venting my feelings, and processing my struggles without relying on a loved one, a real friend, or a therapist, or other related professional. It’s crucial to have them be there for me as I verbalize what I’m going through. Without being able to depend on that, I’m sure I would have eventually imploded.

I have found a lot of value from the feedback of others. I’ve been shown how wrong a path may be affecting me, and I have also received valuable advice that really comes from impartial sources. These types of outlets/people are wonderful tools that make us able to determine reality from distortion. These kinds of times can sometimes blur our visuals in certain scenarios. We may make conclusions on things that might not be as accurate as they should be.

Finding out what’s clear and real, from what’s false, gives us skills that don’t just last the day they are discovered. It creates tools that stay with us as time goes by.

We are social creatures. We have evolved as family units since the dawn of human beings. Maybe that’s why loneliness can be so uncomfortable and even more unhealthy.

Whether it’s emotional support, mental guidance, love, affection, and things like helping each other with minor day-to-day issues, almost everything we do, involves other people. Even when we are simply working on our own self-care, it may be much more than just about us. When we tend to our own health and needs, that in itself can most certainly involve and be connected to other people.

I myself can admit that there have always been times in life where I was extremely thankful and blessed for having another person in my life. It has been those other people I was surrounded with, that made the difference in the direction my life went from there.

If anything, it’s the smaller things in life that my social support has really stood strong for. Because with those things, we are talking about daily life. That casual advice you seek by bouncing ideas off of friends. And while those day-to-day moments with trusted people were small, and calm in nature, they often held serious levels of importance, because it ended up reflecting major moments throughout life. For instance family relationships, events, and advice or emotional support when it comes to romance and friendships.

I don’t promote trying to fit in. Nor do I support the idea of anyone trying to move through life portraying someone they’re not.

With that being said, I do agree with the philosophy and idea of belonging. Acting as a link in a chain, being a component that’s part of something bigger. Multiple levels that together, make a fully in-depth machine, a function, something that helps each part of that function, progress forward into life.

Embrace a social network that can be trusted, depended on, and there for us in both the very worst of times, as well as our very best times.

is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist, Editor, Advocate, and recovering addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and countless other nonfiction topics. His articles, publications, memoirs, and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Hoping to reach others out there still struggling.

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